When It comes to housework, most women I know fail to live up to their mothers’ standards. Our plants die, our floors grow dust balls, the newspapers pile up unread, and the thought of having company for dinner seems an impossible dream. And yet, we’re supposed to have a secret weapon: husbands who share the housework, who pitch in and do chores our dads wouldn’t have dreamed of doing.
Alas, sharing is a slippery term. Some women give credit to men who do nothing more than change lightbulbs or take out the garbage. “People do a lot of justifying,” says Connie Gager, a researcher in the department of sociology at the University of Minnesota in Minneapolis who studied couples in … Read the rest